What 90 Day Fiancé Gets (Shockingly) Right About Modern Dating

It’s messy. It’s emotional. It’s often wildly inappropriate. But 90 Day Fiancé somehow manages to reflect a deep truth about modern love: we’re all just trying to find connection in a complicated world.

Sure, the show is packed with drama and eyebrow-raising decisions—but beneath it all are people who are vulnerable enough to say, "I want love." That takes courage.

There’s something beautifully human about watching people cross borders, battle language gaps, and face cultural friction in the name of love. It reminds us that modern dating—whether online or off—is about risk, compromise, and showing up even when you’re afraid.

So while we might laugh at the antics, we also relate. Because behind every awkward airport reunion and cringey video call is the same thing we’re all chasing: intimacy.

Yes, Even on the Spectrum—They Swipe Too

While watching one of the episodes of Love On The Spectrum, I was struck by one of the scenes involving dating apps.  One of the most moving things about the show is how deeply human it all feels. The nerves before a first date. The pause before asking a question. The hope that maybe, just maybe, this could be something.

Many of the singles on the show do use dating apps—Sometimes they have support. Sometimes they go it alone. But they’re swiping, matching, chatting, ghosting, and getting ghosted—just like the rest of us.

Because dating apps aren’t reserved for the effortlessly charming or the neurotypical. They’re simply one way to meet someone. Not a guarantee. Not a cheat code. Just a tool.

It’s a way to meet people. That’s it.

And when you see someone who’s never had a relationship bravely show up for love—with honesty, vulnerability, and a huge heart—you realize:  We’re all out here looking for connection. Hoping to be seen.

If you’ve ever felt awkward on a date, anxious before opening an app, or unsure whether it’s even worth it—you're not alone.

Watching Love on the Spectrum, we see the tenderness and awkwardness of dating laid bare. The quiet courage it takes to put yourself out there. The desire to be loved, understood, and accepted—without having to hide who you are.

And isn’t that what we all want?

Whether you're neurodivergent, divorced, shy, curious, hopeful, heartbroken, or healing—if you're using apps, you're in good company. Even the most sincere and sensitive among us swipe. 

And if they can keep showing up for love, so can you. 

Match Me Abroad: What This Reality Show Gets Right (and Wrong) About Finding Love Outside Your Comfort Zone

The premise of Match Me Abroad is simple: what if love isn’t where you live, but who you’re willing to become?

The show sends American singles across the globe to meet matchmakers who pair them with people in Colombia, Morocco, and beyond. Sometimes it’s a disaster. Sometimes it’s beautiful. Often, it’s both.

What does the show get right? That dating is deeply shaped by culture, and that love often asks us to stretch—emotionally, spiritually, and logistically. What it misses? That not everyone needs to go abroad to find love—sometimes we just need to go deeper into ourselves.

Whether you’re dating internationally or locally, the key is the same: self-awareness, emotional honesty, and a willingness to try again. Love is never about location. It’s about openness.

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